Thank you for your question, firstly I like to advise you that you never become conscious about this matter, you have to discuss with your doctor about it and if you feel ashamed to tell this problem to your doctor then why the doctors are here for? I like to help you to get out from this problem. I would surely speak to your husband about this issue, weather if he can help you get ride from this problem. You have to continue an open relationship with your better half; it helps you to develop your sex drive. Talking with your husband may be making any different change in you; he will help you in making changes and try to work it out. And as for the pain, there are many substances available in market to reduce it. I would like to prefer KY jelly for this and you must try it out. I think you are satisfied with my answer and I hope you will become better soon. I wish you all the best, Thank you.