Hello,
Thank you for posting your query at DoctorSpring.com
I understand your concern.
Did you notice any mouth sores in that female?
If she did not have open mucosal lesion, then there are less chances of her spreading herpes to you.
However it is possible that someone with herpes can pass on herpes to an uninfected partner through oral sex, mostly HSV-1 strain.
I will advise you wait for a week, because for most people the incubation period, lies somewhere around 3-6 days. Sometimes in that period it can come false negative.
You can kiss your wife and child till you develop any kind of sores. But if possible avoid lip kissing, since there is a slight possibility that even in the incubation, infection can be passed on.
Hope this was helpful,
Regards.

Hello,
If someone has a cold sore and performs oral sex, this can spread HSV-1 to the genitals — and cause herpes sores on the genitals. In case of open sores, the chances are high- i will say close to 50 %.
In absence of any active sores, there are very less chances, not more than 5 %, of being infected with HSV-1, which can cause sores in the genitalia. HSV-2 ( the other herpes strain ), can only be caused secondary to intercourse.
Regards.