I can understand your question and query about your unfortunate situation. From your description, it seem like you have genital herpes and not staph infection. Let me explain some points about herpes. It is caused by Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV). It is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections. It is of two types- HSV type 1 and HSV type 2. Of these, the type 1 HSV infects and affects mouth, lips and facial parts. HSV 2 infection is what causes genital herpes. It affects genital areas with similar symptoms as you said. It can be spread easily when one comes in skin to skin contact with an affected person. Chance of getting affected increases when the affected person has got sores, blisters etc. You can go for a blood test to find antibody levels in your blood. Infection is identified by the presence of antibodies produces by body, in blood. However, there is no complete cure for genital herpes. But you can have an antiviral medication which helps in relieving pain and suppress outbreak of infection. Medicines like acyclovir, famciclovir, valacyclovir etc. are used to treat infectious situations. They can help in healing wounds caused by the outbreak. It is advised to wear clean, loose clothes while having herpes and while undergoing treatment. Also, you should clean the affected areas using soap and water. Hope this clears your doubts. Take care.