Hello doctor, I am a 24 years old female. I am the mother of a 8 months old daughter also. I am planning to get married soon, with my fiancé who is the father of my daughter. I have been staying with him for long, from about 2008. Now there are some breaches in our relationship regarding genital herpes, which I got an outbreak for the first time on 2008. He believes that I am unfaithful to him and have got relationships with someone else. I never had any other symptoms which make me think that I may have the infection yet. Like me, he also went to different doctors to get tested. For me the result was positive and for him, it was negative. How can this happen? It seems impossible, as we had unprotected sex most of the times and I have read that unprotected sex will surely transmit the virus to partner. I am in a fear that I may possibly ruin the relationship with him. Recently, I had got an outbreak after spending a night out with my friends in town. But his mistook it and thinks that at that time I became unfaithful and had sex with someone else, who has got the infection. But I am sure that I haven’t had any sexual intercourse. By the way, as I told, our daughter is 8 months old and after delivery, I had lost some of my body weight, say 40+ pounds. Moreover, I feels depressed and was prescribed to take anti depressants, as suggested by my OB-Gyn. But I am afraid of its side effects and haven’t taken any, yet. I read and tried to understand the information about herpes. I found that stress and depression can trigger an outbreak in Herpes infected people. Also, from my doctor, I came to know that possibilities are there to get infected long before getting an outbreak. Also, my partner’s doctor told him that test results need not be correct always and being having no symptoms do not mean that there is no virus, necessarily. I recently felt soreness while having sex. I think it was because of a change in tampons I was using, since the soreness was felt just after I came out of my periods last time. It was scented tampons which my body may have rejected. I got my symptoms worse and had to see my doctor. He told that sex, depression, menstruation and combination of any of these factors can trigger out a herpes outbreak. May I have been infected long before? How can it happen so, if I haven’t had sex with anyone with Genital Herpes or cold sores? I haven’t done any blood tests for STDs. Is it necessary to do all STD related tests for me? Can Genital Herpes co-exist with other types of STDs? Can I get some home treatment for herpes? What do you suggest as genital herpes remedy for treating herpes at home? Hope you can help me well. Thank you.