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Dear doctor,
I am a 27 years old guy. I am normally healthy and well built. The issue I have is with my sex drive or libido. It has plummeted in the past 8 months. I don’t know, how to explain it or why it caused so. I am really feeling great, except this. I don’t know how to explain this condition. How can I get this cleared? I remember, all this happened after my break up with my girlfriend. After breaking up, I moved to a new city to start law school. I think the drop of attitude may be a result of my experiences in first year with the law school also. I am a hard working fellow, who doesn’t care much about others. I have a relaxed nature also. I am not stressed or worrying about anything. I am not suffering from anxiety also. I have a good body physique also. I do work outs every day for getting my muscles in shape. I am not suffering from any complicated health issues, as far as my knowledge. I am not using any drugs or medications. I do have good desire to meet and date with women. Since becoming a single, all my desires have risen up. What I have lost is my sexual desire. Even my masturbation frequency dropped to once in 4-5 weeks. I have some sort of hatred towards physical sexual act. This is increasing when I am with any woman. To add oil to fire, my last sex sessions were ended up embarrassing. This happened about 4 times. I was even not able to achieve or maintain an erection, when it was most needed. But it happens to be erect when it is not needed. It erects up after the opportunity goes up, frustrating me. All women I encountered with were beautiful. But even at the time of sex, I have not known them personally, very much, nor did I maintain a strong relationship with them, as I did with my ex-girlfriend. I felt like detaching from them, when they are with me. That makes me think that my problem can be some sort of psychological rather than physical. I don’t think that I am suffering from some physical sexual problems like erectile dysfunction or so. There is a strong reason to believe so, because I had no problem in having sex with my previous girlfriend. But I want to get it clear, before going to the next girl. I must not fail in having a comfortable and successful sex with a girl, the next time. I want to perform as usual, with the next girl. I am made up not to masturbate for 4-5 days before meeting the next girl. I am not going to drink alcohol, as I usually did. Is there anything else, which I should do, to gain my erection and performance back? Please help.
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Thanks for your question and concern. As you think, stress is a major cause which decrease libido in young males. It can lower your sex drive significantly. Anyway, stress is a part of life and you have to cope with that. Your plans are nice, in increasing and maintaining libido. Go on with exercising and working smart. Lower your alcohol consumption, as it can reduce libido significantly. But you should consult your doctor if this is persisting for more than a few months. In the medical side, you may be suffering from thyroid dysfunction or hormonal abnormalities. Low testosterone levels also add to a lower sex drive. I hope I have answered your query well. Good luck for your normal sexual life. Take care.